1 Be kind. The English-speaking world, and Western cultures generally, are war zones for trans-and-GNC people, and the people who love them. We all have our collections of battle scars. It’s fine to have opinions, and to disagree vigorously, but as we post we should show signs that we’re working not to add to each other’s scar collections.

2 There are no set rules. The moderators have been to the rodeo before. If we make a list of rules, some rules lawyer will come along, do something to hurt someone or degrade the quality of discourse, and then gleefully point out that they stayed within the lines. We’re not playing that game. Read the room, respect moderator guidance, and step back when told. Whether you have stayed within them is completely up to the moderators. As of 2020-03-20, the moderators are Johanna, Trish, and Grace.

3 If you receive negative feedback from the moderators, if your post is deleted, if your account is moderated, we do not owe you an explanation. You may get one, and you may not. If you don’t, then the answer is that in our judgement you were acting like an asshole, and we don’t have time for that. That may be all you get.

4 No one is obligated to answer questions about their history, and if you ask people about their surgical status or other details of their transition history, you better have a very fine reason, or, even better, the specific permission of the person you’re asking. We are not interested in perpetuating any kind of trans hierarchy. We’re all in this together.

5 We want this space to be as free of discrimination as possible. As we are able to recognize them and address them, we will address instances of isms and phobias. These include, but are not limited to: transphobia, homophobia, biphobia, racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, and fatphobia. Do your best not to manifest that stuff here. We recognize that all people have internalized biases, and that includes you. Bring your best self, and listen and work on yourself if someone points out that your own crap is showing.

6 Kindly hold what happens here in confidence. Be aware that the names, pronouns, and presentation that people use here are not necessarily those they may use at work, at home, or in public; breaking confidentiality can cost jobs, marriages, and lives.

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